Resolution Solutions: Barriers To Your Goals

Even well-written goals can fail. And that failure may not come from the goal itself, but from life circumstances that get in your way. The key is to acknowledge that there are barriers, identify what they are, and then plan a fix for them.

There are so many kinds of barriers that it would be impossible to list them all in a blog post. It would be easier to have a method for finding yours.

Get into the practice of looking backward when you find that you did not complete a goal and reconstructing just what happened. This sounds simple to do, but it’s really not because you can be so rushed to get things done that you really never take stock of what happened!

When you pause to find that you missed a goal for the day, piece together the events that led to the moment when that incompletion happened. Think about the reasons why, and what would need to change in order for it to be complete the next day.

Making this a practice will help you be more self-aware of your goals and your own efforts to achieve them. It will also help develop the vital life skills of self-reflection and correction, which you could use in many aspects of your life!




For A Stress Less Holiday: Look Forward

This week, the phrase you should focus on is, “Here’s what I’m looking forward to …” Then fill in the blank.

Last year is done, and now we can view the horizon in a positive way.

Create next year as one full of potential and promise by taking time each day of this week to identify what it is you look forward to in the coming year.

Look Forward.



For A Stress Less Holiday: Focus on YOUR “Reason for the Season”

This time of year is often a time of reflection, when people look inward toward the things they are grateful for, and the things that matter the most for them.

All week this week, pause. Remind yourself of the things that make this season special. That kind of gratitude inventory resets your mind onto the things that matter most.

There’s no “right answer” here. Your reason is personal to you and may or may not be the same as someone else’s reason.



For A Stress Less Holiday, Keep a Clean Mental Desktop

One constant source of stress is what we call a cluttered “mental desktop”. When you have 37 things whirring about in your brain, you can get into a spin-cycle that contributes to chronic stress.

The solution is to do exactly what you do when you meditate – clear the desktop of all items but one. Write them all down, put them away, then come back to them after your one single task has been completed.




For A Stress Less Holiday, Don’t Over Schedule

This time of year, it is so easy to get bogged down in the infinite to-do lists for work and family and guests and presents and food and friends and on and on.

So, to stress less this month, start by making a conscious decision to pare down that list, delegate some of them out when you can, and leave time just for you.


The most unhealthy drinks

Popular “detox” drinks promise to cleanse everything from liver to lymph. But your body’s internal mechanisms were built to do just that, if we could just get out of its way. One excellent first step is to give up drinks that make your body work harder to clean up the toxins.


Kick the Can

Giving up sodas is a great first step. Colas have the phosphoric acid that can help pull calcium out of your body. Your body needs calcium in every cell, so it pulls what it needs from your bones, and this can make them even more brittle than they are.

Get Real

Find the ingredients that are truly unreal. Those that contain artificial sugars and colors. These are associated with a host of health issues, and should be avoided altogether. An easy rule is to look for ingredients you can read, that was alive at some point in the past, and that your grandparents consumed.


If you still consume the “creamers” for your coffee, just note that the first two ingredients include both hydrogenated oils and high fructose corn syrup. These are not good for you by themselves. Together, it’s even worse.


With these three rules, you can start to detox your body by simply allowing your body’s own detoxification processes to work at their best!


Healthy Holiday Spirits

At the end of the year, feasts with family and friends commonly encourage consumption of food and of drink. How do you make sure this annual occurrence doesn’t turn bad for you? You simply have to manage quantity AND quality.

Drinking Quantity

Wine makes the point. For example, is red wine good for you or bad for you.

* One to two glasses per day is said to be good for your heart.

* One to two bottles per day will turn your liver into a brick.

The bottom line is that wine is NOT good for you, and wine is NOT bad for you … until you make it that way. Over-consumption changes this drink from one that is healthy, to one that is not.

The same is true for all spirits, and the holiday season is the perfect time to make the point: controlled consumption keeps the holiday happy, but also healthy!


Drinking Quality

There are differences in taste between different beers, wines, and spirits, but that’s not what I’m talking about. In this sense, quality doesn’t apply to the flavor of the drink but to the nutritional aspects. And once you have the quantity issue worked out (see above), improving the quality of the drinks is the next piece of the puzzle.

  • It’s very simple. Cut the sugar.
  • A standard egg nog is like twelve thousand calories.
  • If you have mixers, don’t used colas or other sugar sweetened drinks.
  • Drinks served at restaurants sound wonderful on their menu descriptions, but are very commonly over-sweetened.

This is important because sugar consumption is not only high in calories, but it also can affect your insulin balance in a way that makes you more tired and hungry in the long term — moving less, and eating more!

So this November, if you have drinks with alcohol at all, limit the volume. A good solution is to have a glass of water between each drink. Also, if you make a commitment to remove the sugars from your drinks you’ll be just as likely to reduce your caloric load as you will to reduce your food cravings!

Healthy Hydration starts with water, but does not end there

Staying hydrated is so important for so many aspects of your health! From your brain and kidneys to your skin and energy levels, simply keeping hydrated is one of the easiest solutions you can apply for your overall health.

But how much is enough? We have been told that you need AT LEAST 8, 8-ounce glasses of water each day. This coaching was provided to us by our health establishments and official institutions as “evidence based” advice. Turns out, it was not. Please read this solid review by H Valtin: “Drink at least eight glasses of water a day. Really? Is there scientific evidence for 8 x 8“?

That issue speaks to the quantity of fluid. Now let’s talk about the quality of the thing you’re drinking.

Even if you’re not sucking back swimming pools of water each day, you might think that staying hydrated would be a simple matter of including more water in your life. Where it gets confusion is in the plethora of products (and their urgent ad campaigns), from “smart” water to sports drinks, and all of them want to convince you that their product is the one you should buy.

This randomized trial (funded by Coca-Cola, who makes sports drinks) wanted to create a hydration index. This index would show how well drinks can hydrate your body, compared to water.

The data are presented in this graph. Other than the oral rehydration solution (like Pedialyte), the best drink for hydration is actually milk. Yeah, milk. Perhaps because of its associated proteins, the body hydrates better with this than even water itself.

Another interesting point of note here is that the sports drinks (think, Gatorade) that sweaty athletes drink on TV was worse than water for re-hydration!

So the bottom line is that hydration is critically important for your health. You don’t have to drink swimming pools of it every day, and don’t be fooled by the ads about hydration drinks!